Author: NIRXHOR

A sensual massage is one of the hottest things you can do. It can be either be done on its own, or before or after sex (as foreplay or as post-sex enjoyment). Like a kiss, massages are a unique way of conveying love, not lust. A good massage doesn’t have to last long and doesn’t require much preparation.

If you’re doing it on its own or as foreplay, it’s good to set the mood. Have the right ambience for a sexy massage. Dim the lights, burn some bukhoor, maybe set some soft music in the background (if you follow the fiqh position that music is fine). A good trick is to take one of your colored hijabs and drape it over a lamp shade to give off a colored glow. It can really change the ambience of the room.

Pick a product to massage into him. Coconut oil is the standard but there are special warming oils and flavored massage oils (if you want to use tongue) that you can consider.

A good massage is slow and sensuous. Remember, this involves the whole body from the top down. Don’t jump straight to his penis!

Start at the very top, at his head. Yes, massage that too! Rub your fingertips in small circles over his scalp. The feeling of ten individual points of contact going in all sorts of directions is amazing. Apply as much pressure as you want, there’s no chance of you hurting his scalp with just the pressure of your fingers.

One place which feels very good to massage is the pressure point right in the middle of the forehead (the place where cartoon cyclops have their third eye). Take both thumbs and apply pressure there for a minute. It does wonders to relieve the tension. While you’re doing this, massage the sides of his forehead as well. Keep your thumbs pressed in the middle of the forehead and use your other fingers to massage his temples.

Then massage his facial bones. Trace the angle of his jaw with your fingers and apply pressure on his cheekbones and you walk your fingers over his face.

Move down to his neck and shoulders. The neck is an often overlooked erogenous zone. Feel for the indentations in his neck and apply pressure there. Rub the tense muscles on the side of his neck before moving down to his upper back. When you get to his shoulders, use your full hands on each shoulder to push down on his muscles. You can even use your elbows to apply more pressure if he enjoys that. Remember, use lighter pressure on the skin over the bones here and more pressure on the skin overlaying the muscles between bones.

Work your way downwards, spending about 10-15 minute on each section. Take each arm and massage down from the shoulder to the end. Use your knucles to kneed his palms. Massage his fingers by twisting each of them in a closed fist.

Massage his butt, pressing in with your thumbs. Get the back of his thighs, and push in hard. As you move down to his thighs and legs, you’ll find that they’re more muscular and you have to push in harder. Move outward along his inner thigh, massaging all the way. If he’s comfortable, try and push in to his perineum, the area between his scrotum and his anus. Work your way all the way down, rubbing to his feet, his heels, and his ankles. If he works a job that requires a lot of standing or walking, this will feel so amazingly good.

Don’t forget the other side of his body! The clavicle, the chest, the breast bone, the nipples, all of them also feel good to be massaged!

As you’re massaging him up and down, vary the pressure that you’re
applying. Pay attention to his responses. A soft moan means you’re doing great. A harsh intake of breath means you’re going too hard. Some men like that, though, so if you hear it, ask him if he wants you to apply less pressure.

Now that you’ve gone top to bottom, move back up to his penis and testicles. Give him a handjob but make it slow and sensual. Don’t do it with the goal of making him ejaculate. Use slow, long strokes with the palm of your hand. Use lots of oil to keep it wet. Massage his testicles too but very gently.

Depending on what the mood is, you can finish the massage by turning up the intensity of the handjob until he ejaculates or just finishing without any orgasm. A sensual massage is a treat by itself!

Unlike other acts, this is one where less talking is actually sexier. If you need to say something, use a soft, sultry voice. A sensual massage is all about non verbal communication.

Before I even begin, stripteases are not for everyone. Some women and their husbands will find it exhilarating. Others will try to suppress their laughter when performing/viewing it. If stripping is more comedic than sexy for you or your husband, don’t waste time trying to force yourselves to enjoy it. It’s just not for everyone—and that’s fine!

The best place to strip is your bedroom, provided you have enough space. The bed is right there and you two have already started associating the room with naughty time. If it’s not large enough, the living room will have to do. If you’re doing it in the living room and have kids, absolutely make sure there is no way they can come in the house at that time. This is reserved for a time when all the kids are at school or otherwise firmly separated from the building.

Choosing what you wear when you strip is key. You have to plan so that you have multiple layers of clothing on, with sexy clothing at the end. Nylons and garters are uniquely alluring. If you’re going with this, wear your panties over the garter belt instead of under. This allows your husband to pull off your panties while leaving the garters and stockings intact, making it look more enticing when he gets to that part. Over this, wear a skirt that’s easy to take off. For your top, make sure you have a sleek bra and then choose something like a blazer on top. Saris are a super sexy outfit to wear when stripping. Some women might feel awkward doing this, but I’d recommend to keep adding layers until you’re presentable enough to go outside. Meaning wearing a hijab or even a niqab. Going from fully covered, pious Muslimah to ravaging him in bed is part of the turn on in a striptease.

Once you have your outfit prepared (or before), set the mood by lighting bukhoor or other incense. Like a massage, striptease is a sensual action so you need the proper setting.

Remember, in a striptease, you are taking control. This is one where you’re dominant. When he comes home from work, grab him by the wrist and take him to where you’re going to strip for him. Push him, —firmly—where he should sit. Give him a soft kiss and then walk away.

As you walk away, make sure it’s slow and seductive. Put some movement into your hips as you do so. When you get as far as you intend to, stop. Look over your shoulder while still facing away, and take the outermost layer of your top off.

Take a step back towards your husband. Put your hands on either side of your hips and lower your skirt/pants to the floor. Bend forward while you’re doing this so that your butt is front and center for your husband.

Each striptease will be different depending on what you’re wearing. Your instinct might be to take your hijab off first. Switch it up though. Your husband might find the sight of you in a hijab and nothing else to be very sexy.

When you’re undoing your bra, again, do it slowly. Face the other way. Slip each shoulder strap down before undoing the bra from behind. Throw the bra at him over your shoulder. At this point, all he sees is your bare back. Then turn around and let him get a view of your breasts.

A really good move to do to turn him on is to come up to him and sit down while straddling one of his thighs. Move up and down his thigh. Take it all the way to his knee and then grind your crotch into his knee.

If you have the time, try doing a practice run by yourself before doing it with him. Even then, you might find that the first few times is awkward. That’s fine, you have a lifetime to perfect it! Like I said, for some couples, this isn’t a turn on at all. If that’s you, that’s fine! There’re other ways to spice up your sex life.

So, now to the real meat of the book. Sex positions. This is the best way to vary your sex life. Some couples never move beyond missionary position. If that’s what you two enjoy, that’s perfectly fine! However, not every couple wants to stay vanilla every time. In the following pages, I’m going to talk about 100 different positions for you and your husband to try. You’ll find that you’re drawn to

These are for when you’re feeling a bit more dominant and want to take control.

Cowgirl

Cowgirl is the most common position when the woman is on top.

Have your husband lay down on his back and straddle him. Put your legs on either side of his waist such that your knees are on the bed. Now you’re in control. Take his penis with your hands and guide it inside of you. Depending on the length of his penis and the depth of your vagina, it might be painful to sit straight down. This is a position where smaller penis length is preferable. If he’s hitting your cervix and making it uncomfortable, lean forward and angle yourself so that it’s more comfortable. You can put your hands on his chest, on the bed, or on your thighs. Then start riding him. The first time you do this, you’ll likely find yourself bouncing up and down on his penis. Later on, you can cary this by moving your body back and forth, basically grinding against his pubic bone. This is fantastic for stimulating your clitoris and the rest of your vagina. As you get even more comfortable with this position, you can combine and grind against his pubic bone while bouncing up and down. Use your hips. Move them around. Back and forth, up and down, side to side, even some swirling. Instead of thinking about it as his penis being inside of you and then you moving around, think about it as you stroking his penis with your vagina. The bulk of the motion should be originating from your hip area. Full body bouncing is nice for his viewing pleasure but it’s the hip motion that is really going to work his penis.

Remember, you’re in control here. You can change the angle of entry by shifting back and forth. Your husband doesn’t have to do anything in this position and the first few times you try it, it’s better for him to just lay back and enjoy the view. He’ll love seeing your breasts bounce up and down as you ride him. As you two get used to each other, he can start contributing by using his hips as well. A simple up and down thrusting movement can add some variation. He can also gyrate his hips in a swirling motion to stimulate your vaginal walls during this position. Depending on how you two feel about anal play, he can also insert a finger or two into your rectum or, at the very least, push you up and down while holding your butt.

Lying cowgirl

This is a small variation of the cowgirl position. Have your husband lie on his back and the edge of the bed. His feed can be touching the floor or just hanging along the side of the bed. Straddle him with one leg on each side of his body and your pelvis meeting his. Then lean forward and bring your boobs into contact with his chest. He trades the chance to get a view of you riding him with the feeling of your skin against his. The pelvis-pelvis contact can give you some clitoral stimulation if you throw in the right hip action.

Asian Cowgirl

This is a small variation of the cowgirl position. Instead of straddling your husband, you squat over him. Start out by getting in the regular cowgirl position. Lean forward, put your hands on either side of his body to steady yourself, then rock back into the squatting position (yes, the position you use in toilets back home). Women with thicker thighs find that this position gives them greater range of motion. It also requires you to have very strong thighs and lower body muscles. Even women who are athletic and in great shape can’t keep this position for more than a minute or two.

Reverse Cowgirl

This is very similar to the cowgirl position, but with you facing the other way. Your husband lays down on his back and you straddle him with your knees on either side of his thighs. You’re facing away from his face, giving him a view of your back, not your breasts. If you have a larger butt, this is a good position to allow him to play with your butt while you’re having sex. Don’t be surprised if he delivers some light spanks while you’re riding him in this position. Some women find the reverse cowgirl to be an easier position to start out with than the cowgirl position. The lack of eye to eye contact takes some of the anxiety and nervousness out of the equation.

Reverse Asian Cowgirl

Combine the previous two

Lunge

If you’ve ever done a lunge, you’ll know from the name that this position also requires a good deal of strength and flexibility. This is really just a small variation of Asian cowgirl. Once you get into position, you keep your front foot planted but your rear leg extended out behind you and between your husband’s legs. In a sense, you’re doing a “lunge” while positioning your vagina over his penis.

Amazon

This is one of the most difficult to perform women-on top positions. It
requires flexibility for both partners and an above average penis length for the male. It’s also one of the most dominating positions for the woman so it’s worth trying at least once. For this position, your husband should lie down on his back like he would for any other woman-on-top position. Then, he should bring his legs up and bend his knees. You squat down on him while he’s pulling his legs close to his chest. Then you just squat up and down to allow him to penetrate you. As you do this position, you’ll find that he automatically pushes you back upwards with his thighs. You might find that leaning against his thighs helps take the pressure off your legs a bit. Be careful in this position. Go slow so that you don’t accidentally hurt his penis.

Kneeling Amazon

This is a variant of the Amazon. To make it a little bit easier on the legs but still requires an above average amount of physical stamina. Get into the same position as Amazon but on your knees instead of squatting. You can stay in this position longer and also have more flexibility in choosing your angle. With this position, you have a chance to enjoy some deep penetration.

Reverse Amazon

Another variant of the Amazon. You get into the same position but face away from him rather than towards him. The difference in angle can give you a very unique sensation.

Kneeling reverse Amazon

Combine the previous two

Inverted Missionary

This is exactly what it sounds like. It’s like missionary, but inverted. Your husband lays down with his legs together. You straddle him with your knees on the bed, facing him. Learn forward so that you’re resting on him. You can be as active as you want in this position, using your hips to move up and down his penis. Or, you can have him be the active one and do some thrusting. This is a good position to try because it flips the usual position. Hopefully, being a “limp fish” isn’t a problem for you after reading this App, but if you were one, this position would let you know how it feels for your husband when he’s in missionary and you’re being a “limp fish”. You can always spice up this position by kissing him and holding him close for more skin to skin contact. If you want to play up the dominant angle, grab his arms and pin them over his head. To add some clitoral stimulation, pretend you’re doing a crunch and move your crotch up towards your body while in this position.

Sybian

Have your husband lay down on an ottoman (or a soft-cushioned stool or something similar). Straddle him like your’e in the cowgirl position but since you’re not on a bed, you’ll have your feet planted on the ground. You can use your legs to bounce up and down him. You can also grind on him or thrust forwards and back. Remember, leaning front or back can help change the angle of entry. Your hands can either go on his stomach or stimulate your clitoris to increase the chance of an orgasm. This is one that requires a lot of energy to do with not as much of an increase in pleasure.

Thigh master

For this position, your husband should start out by lying on his back. He should extend one leg and bend the other at the knee, planting his foot on the bed. You should mount him by facing away and straddling his raised thigh. Basically, have one knee on either side of his leg and lower yourself onto his penis. Hold on to his leg but use your own legs to help you bounce on him. One of the great things about this position is that you can directly rub your clitoris onto his thigh. In a way, you’re humping his thigh while you’re doing this.

Worm

Have your husband lay on his back on the bed with his legs spread as much as possible. You sit on top of him while facing away Then you lean forward and slide your feet toward’s his head, kind of like a pushup position. Do this very slowly and stop if it’s uncomfortable for him. This position puts your butt front and center and gives your husband a great view. In addition, he can see his penis coming in and out of your vagina, which is a major plus.

These positions are more submissive for you and allow your husband to be dominant. While these make for very intense sex, they’re not very intimate.

Doggy style

The name gives away how you need to position yourself. Get down on all fours with your legs spread apart. Your husband will get down on his knees and enter you from behind. There’s not much that you need to do in this position. You can simply stay on all fours while he thrusts into you. If you want deeper and harder penetration, push back into your husband with each stroke. To change the angle he’s coming in at, change the arch of your back. You can increase and add more arch by sticking your butt as far out as possible or decrease and make the arch less. If you can support yourself on three limbs, you can use one hand to reach down and rub your clitoris yourself in this position.

This is a very primal and submissive position. This is not a position for when you want to make love but instead, a position when you want to get pounded. Since this is a very submissive position, you might find that it’s a good position for your husband to spank you in. He can grab you by the waist or shoulders to manhandle you a bit more in this position. If you’re feeling very submissive, have him tie your hands behind your back. He’ll be in complete control.

Standing doggy style

This is doggy style but with both of you standing. Find a secure object to hold on to and bend over. You can keep your legs together or spread them apart to adjust your height. It’s a good position for where you don’t want to (or can’t) lay down. Sex in the kitchen, in the bathroom in front of the mirror, etc.

Bendover position

This is almost exactly like standing doggy style but with you bending over at your waist. You need to be very flexible for this so some women simply can’t do it. For those that can, however, place your hands on the floor to balance yourself. The visual is amazing for your husband, letting him see your back and hips and butt. It allows for very deep penetration for you, making for intense sex. This is a good position to try in the shower.

Basset Hound

Get down on all fours like normal doggy style. After that, however, lower yourself even further towards the ground. Spread your knees out and push your butt backwards to lower your waist. Get onto your elbows and spread them out so your breasts are close to the ground. This allows for very deep penetration. If your husband has a shorter penis, this might be very pleasurable. If his penis is longer, this might be a little bit painful (unless you like his penis hitting your cervix).

Bulldog

Again, position yourself on all fours like normal doggy style. This time, however, bring both of your legs together. Your husband should place his feet outside of your legs so he can enter you in a slight squatting position. The tighter you keep your legs together, the larger your husband will feel to you.

Fire hydrant

This position requires some flexibility. You begin in the standard doggy style position. His knees should be inside yours. Then, your husband will lift up one of his legs and plant his foot on the floor to your side. The end result will be that your thigh is resting on top of his thigh, making you look like a dog urinating on a fire hydrant (hence the name!). This position lends itself well to very deep thrusting and possibly g-spot stimulation.

Frog leap

This position doesn’t start out like the rest of the positions in the doggy style family. Squat down frog style, with your knees bent and leaning forward on your arms to stay balanced. Your husband gets behind you on his knees and enter in just like normal doggy style.

Leapfrog

Not to be confused with frog leap. You begin by getting into regular doggy style position. Instead of propping yourself up on your knees, however, rest your chest and head on the bed. Push your butt high upinto the air. Your husband will enter in with his legs close together inside of you. If you do this in front of a wall, you can place your hands and push back with a good bit of force into your husband. This will make each thrust stronger and harder. This position makes for very deep penetration. This may be a positive or negative depending on the length of your husband’s penis and the amount of depth from your vaginal opening to your cervix.

Prison guard

This is even more dominating than the previous positions. Begin by facing the same direction as your husband. Bend over so that you’re looking down at the floor. You can spread your legs to change your height as needed. Put your arms parallel with your body. Your husband holds on to you by your wrists and thrusts in. You’re the prisoner, your husband is having his way with you. This is a position to wait to try until you and your husband are comfortable with rough intercourse. He should know what amount of rough is pleasurable and what amount is painful for you before you two try this position. You can mix this up by getting on your knees or laying prone instead of both standing.

Stairway to heaven

This is doggy style when you have a home with carpeted stairs. Make sure there’s no one in the house before doing this, of course. Put your knees on a lower step and your hands on a higher one. Your height is going to determine how many steps should be between your knees and your hands. Your husband will stand on the step below your knees and then enter into you.

Final furlong

Doggy style positions in general are more lustful and less intimate. This is one of the more intimate and sensual of the doggy style positions. It also requires the right furniture. Finding the right furniture to do this on is half the battle. Find a decent sized footrest or ottoman that can seat both of you. Sit down, straddling the footrest, and leave slightly forward. Basically, the footrest is your saddle and you’re a jockey in a horse race (hence the name, final furlong). Your husband sits behind you and enters in. This doesn’t require as much effort as the rest of the doggy style positions, making it good for slow, intimate intercourse. You can lean backwards again him and pt]ut your arms gently around his head or back to make it more intimate.

Turtle

This is an extremely submissive position. Get into position by resting on your knees. Lower yourself down until your butt is sitting on top of the back of your ankles. Lean as far forward as you can. Grab your legs to help lean further forward. Husband enters from behind and thrusts in. You’ll find that you’re almost immobile in this position, making it great for when you want to be dominated.

Pump

Start by positioning yourself on a sofa with your legs bent slightly. Your husband will penetrate you from behind while standing. You can put your arms in front of you onto the This is a position where you’re submissive. This is mostly your husband thrusting in and out. He’s in a good position to reach around and rub your clitoris in this position.

Delight

This is an intimate position. Sit at the very edge of your bed (or any surface that’s 1-2 feet above the ground). Open your legs wide. Your husband should kneel on the floor between your legs. He enters from there and thrusts in. Depending on your heights, you may need to use pillows to fix your alignment. You can put pillows underneath yourself or under your husband’s knees. Angles are also important. When you first try out this position, experiment with angles. You can do any angle from sitting up straight with your arms around his neck to leaning so far back you’re almost laying down. With time, you’ll find which angle is most pleasurable. Keep in mind though that the further back you lean, the more you increase the distance and the less intimate this position becomes. Don’t be afraid to use your own hands for some clitoral stimulation in this position.

Dancer

This requires flexibility and strength. Start off by standing upright and facing your husband. Lift one of your legs so that your husband can hold it at his side. If you’re flexible enough, you can wrap it around his waist. Once your leg is wrapped around him (or held at his side), he can enter you and start thrusting. He should have one hand around your waist and the other holding your leg with his arm. This is a very intimate position and allows you to hold him close while you’re having sex. You can wrap your hands around his waist to make it more intimate, or even put then under his arms and grab him by the shoulders. If you get tired, you can switch the leg that you’re standing on. Most women will find that they can’t hold this position for more than a minute or two.

Slow dance

Quite similar to the previous position. You both stand up facing each other. If your husband is taller than you, he’ll have to bend his knees so that he can position himself well to enter you. Open up your legs a little bit to make it easier for him to do so. Then you just wrap your arms around each other and make gentle thrusts while hugging. This is already very intimate to begin with but you can make it even more so by using your hips and legs to maximize skin on skin contact. If height difference allows, move your hands up to his head and massage his scalp with your fingers.

Bodyguard

For this position, you both need to stand up and facing the same direction. Your husband will enter you from behind. If there’s a substantial height difference, he’ll need to bend his knees to enter inside of you. After that, it can be a slow, intimate case of him thrusting or you pushing back. It’s up to you which of you two does the work. If he wants to do it, he can thrust in and out. If you want to do it, you bush yourself in and out. You can wrap your arms behind you, around his hips and butt to pull him in. Or, have your husband wrap his arms around you and hold you closer to make it more intimate.

Teaspoon

Your husband gets on his knees and opens up his legs relatively wide. You then get on your knees in front of him while also facing the same direction. You keep you rknees together and he can enter you from behind, wrapping his arms around you. He can wrap them around your waist, hips, or breasts. This is an intimate position, so he should be thrusting gently. This isn’t a position for hard, passionate thrusts. Either your husband or yourself can play with your clit to increase pleasure in this position.

Lying on your stomach

Irish Garden

Your husband needs to first sit down on your bed with his back straight and upright. His legs should be out in front of him and opened up wide. If he isn’t very flexible, he can bend his knees to make it more comfortable for him. Get down on all fours facing the same direction as him and lower yourself onto his penis. Straighten out your legs, one on each side of his waist, and then lower yoru head and shoulders onto the bed until you’re laying on your stomach. In this position, you’ll be doing most of the work. You can use your hips to move up and down in a rocking motion. Your husband can’t really thrust here, but instead, he can put his hands on your butt or waist and rock you.

Jockey

Lay face down on your bed with your legs straight and together. Your
husband straddles you with his knees on either side of your waist. After he enters, he leans forward just like a jockey riding a racehorse. This is a very passive position. You basically lie there and let him have his way. At most, you can raise up your butt a bit in sync with his thrusts to make them a little bit harder. You can simultaneously grind against a pillow while in this position to increase the chance of an orgasm.

Rear entry

This is very similar to the previous position. You lay down on your bed with your legs straight and together. Your husband gets on top of you but instead of straddling you like in Jockey position, he does it with his legs togethers, just like in missionary position. The rest is the same.

This includes the famous missionary position, the one position that is used most often in sex. Your husband is more dominant in these positions.

Missionary

This is the most common sex position, period. You might find that it’s your go-to position. It works for almost everyone regardless of fitness level, flexibility, and weight. Don’t worry, you’re not “vanilla” just because you enjoy this position (not that there’s anything wrong with being vanilla if it satisfies you two in the bedroom).

You lay down on your back with your legs open. Your husband gets on top with his legs between you. He can rest some of his weight on his elbows to avoid crushing you. On the other hand, you might find that you like the feeling of him allowing some of his weight to push you down onto the bed. Experiment to see what is most pleasurable.

To increase pleasure in this position, have him grind on you while he’s thrusts. Basically, he needs to move his pelvis up and down while thrusting so that his pubic bone pushes into your clitoris. Don’t think, however, that just because he’s dominant in this position that you should do nothing. That’s a recipe for the dreaded “limp fish” syndrome. Be vocal, don’t be shy in letting out any moans of pleasure. Use your arms to wrap around his neck or head, or even to grab his back so that you can pull yourself up to cause even deeper penetration. If you’re into BDSM, he can lightly choke you with one or two hands while in this position. Read the section on BDSM and safe words before trying that though.

Probably the most common complaint men have when they’re not satisfied with sex is “she’s like a limp fish”. A lot of women want to show their husband they’re enjoying sex but don’t know how to express that.

Interestingly, the key to not being a “limp fish” in bed begins outside the bedroom. Let him know you’re thinking of him or that you’re looking forward to the night. This lets him know that he’s not the only one getting pleasure out of sex.

Once you two are in the bedroom and his clothes start coming off, run your fingers and hands over his body. If you like something about his appearance or his smell, compliment him! Men don’t get compliments but love them just as much as we do. When was the last time a friend complimented you on your outfit or on your hair or on anything? Probably recently. Ask your husband the last time a friend complimented him on anything. There’s a good chance he won’t be able to think of any example. So compliment him, he’ll feel so great!

Give him verbal feedback during sex. If he’s doing something right tell him how good it makes you feel. You don’t have to be detailed. It could be something as simple as “Right there” or “keep going” or “more” or “don’t stop”. If he’s doing something wrong, give him guidance! Some women are shy about this but it’s very important. If he doesn’t know what he’s doing wrong, how can he improve it?

Ask him how he feels? It can be something as simple as, “Do you like that?” or “Does that feel nice?”. He’ll give you feedback and you can continue or adjust accordingly. A grunt or moan is a positive feedback

Be open to trying things.

That includes what’s in this book as well as things your husbands suggest that aren’t in here. However, you have to draw the line at what is haram. If your husband wants you to do something that is clearly haram, don’t give in. If he is pressuring you or manipulating you into doing those things, it’s very important to consider whether this is a marriage worth staying in. I know two women who were pressured into anal sex with their husband. They both acquiesced. Not too long after that, they were divorced, citing the abusive nature of their husband. Trying new things in bed should be a healthy and mutually enjoyable part of your relationship.

Enjoy sex

Don’t think of this book as simply a way to please your husband in bed. It’s a way to please yourself as well! If you focus only on doing things your husband wants, you’re going to feel like you’re faking or simply providing a service to him. You want to enjoy sex for yourself too. Don’t get caught in the false narrative

Don’t leave it up to him to spice things up

Don’t be shy of voicing your preferences. Just like you’re open to trying new things, your husband should be open to them too. Some days do what he prefers, other days do what you prefer. Hopefully there’s a large overlap between what you two prefer!

Be confident

Your husband is not doing you a favor by having sex with you. He wants it just as much as you do (maybe even more). Maybe you think you’re overweight or your boobs aren’t big enough or your legs are toned enough. Take a deep breath. Your husband wants you. He married you and (assuming you married for deen and he’s pious), you’re the only woman he’s going to be having sex with. Men are just as worried as we are. They worry their penis isn’t long enough or thick enough or they won’t last very long or they’re last too long or they’re not muscular enough. The difference is that men want sex so bad, they push that aside and move forward. Take that same attitude!

Variety

Routine is the enemy of a good sex life. Switch things up. Try different
positions, switch between being dominant and submissive, explore things you haven’t done in the past. Don’t fall into the rut of only missionary sex.

Initiate

This goes back to being confident. Remember how I said men are just as worried about their bodies as we are, they just want it so bad that they push it aside? Well, when you don’t initiate, he’ll start wondering what’s wrong with him. He’ll think you’re not interested or don’t’ find him attractive. He won’t voice it, most guys are too stoic to say it, but it’ll really strain your relationship. You don’t have to initiate every single time but if you can get it to 50/50, that would be perfect.