Be open to trying things.
That includes what’s in this book as well as things your husbands suggest that aren’t in here. However, you have to draw the line at what is haram. If your husband wants you to do something that is clearly haram, don’t give in. If he is pressuring you or manipulating you into doing those things, it’s very important to consider whether this is a marriage worth staying in. I know two women who were pressured into anal sex with their husband. They both acquiesced. Not too long after that, they were divorced, citing the abusive nature of their husband. Trying new things in bed should be a healthy and mutually enjoyable part of your relationship.
Enjoy sex
Don’t think of this book as simply a way to please your husband in bed. It’s a way to please yourself as well! If you focus only on doing things your husband wants, you’re going to feel like you’re faking or simply providing a service to him. You want to enjoy sex for yourself too. Don’t get caught in the false narrative
Don’t leave it up to him to spice things up
Don’t be shy of voicing your preferences. Just like you’re open to trying new things, your husband should be open to them too. Some days do what he prefers, other days do what you prefer. Hopefully there’s a large overlap between what you two prefer!
Be confident
Your husband is not doing you a favor by having sex with you. He wants it just as much as you do (maybe even more). Maybe you think you’re overweight or your boobs aren’t big enough or your legs are toned enough. Take a deep breath. Your husband wants you. He married you and (assuming you married for deen and he’s pious), you’re the only woman he’s going to be having sex with. Men are just as worried as we are. They worry their penis isn’t long enough or thick enough or they won’t last very long or they’re last too long or they’re not muscular enough. The difference is that men want sex so bad, they push that aside and move forward. Take that same attitude!
Variety
Routine is the enemy of a good sex life. Switch things up. Try different
positions, switch between being dominant and submissive, explore things you haven’t done in the past. Don’t fall into the rut of only missionary sex.
Initiate
This goes back to being confident. Remember how I said men are just as worried about their bodies as we are, they just want it so bad that they push it aside? Well, when you don’t initiate, he’ll start wondering what’s wrong with him. He’ll think you’re not interested or don’t’ find him attractive. He won’t voice it, most guys are too stoic to say it, but it’ll really strain your relationship. You don’t have to initiate every single time but if you can get it to 50/50, that would be perfect.