A sensual massage is one of the hottest things you can do. It can be either be done on its own, or before or after sex (as foreplay or as post-sex enjoyment). Like a kiss, massages are a unique way of conveying love, not lust. A good massage doesn’t have to last long and doesn’t require much preparation.
If you’re doing it on its own or as foreplay, it’s good to set the mood. Have the right ambience for a sexy massage. Dim the lights, burn some bukhoor, maybe set some soft music in the background (if you follow the fiqh position that music is fine). A good trick is to take one of your colored hijabs and drape it over a lamp shade to give off a colored glow. It can really change the ambience of the room.
Pick a product to massage into him. Coconut oil is the standard but there are special warming oils and flavored massage oils (if you want to use tongue) that you can consider.
A good massage is slow and sensuous. Remember, this involves the whole body from the top down. Don’t jump straight to his penis!
Start at the very top, at his head. Yes, massage that too! Rub your fingertips in small circles over his scalp. The feeling of ten individual points of contact going in all sorts of directions is amazing. Apply as much pressure as you want, there’s no chance of you hurting his scalp with just the pressure of your fingers.
One place which feels very good to massage is the pressure point right in the middle of the forehead (the place where cartoon cyclops have their third eye). Take both thumbs and apply pressure there for a minute. It does wonders to relieve the tension. While you’re doing this, massage the sides of his forehead as well. Keep your thumbs pressed in the middle of the forehead and use your other fingers to massage his temples.
Then massage his facial bones. Trace the angle of his jaw with your fingers and apply pressure on his cheekbones and you walk your fingers over his face.
Move down to his neck and shoulders. The neck is an often overlooked erogenous zone. Feel for the indentations in his neck and apply pressure there. Rub the tense muscles on the side of his neck before moving down to his upper back. When you get to his shoulders, use your full hands on each shoulder to push down on his muscles. You can even use your elbows to apply more pressure if he enjoys that. Remember, use lighter pressure on the skin over the bones here and more pressure on the skin overlaying the muscles between bones.
Work your way downwards, spending about 10-15 minute on each section. Take each arm and massage down from the shoulder to the end. Use your knucles to kneed his palms. Massage his fingers by twisting each of them in a closed fist.
Massage his butt, pressing in with your thumbs. Get the back of his thighs, and push in hard. As you move down to his thighs and legs, you’ll find that they’re more muscular and you have to push in harder. Move outward along his inner thigh, massaging all the way. If he’s comfortable, try and push in to his perineum, the area between his scrotum and his anus. Work your way all the way down, rubbing to his feet, his heels, and his ankles. If he works a job that requires a lot of standing or walking, this will feel so amazingly good.
Don’t forget the other side of his body! The clavicle, the chest, the breast bone, the nipples, all of them also feel good to be massaged!
As you’re massaging him up and down, vary the pressure that you’re
applying. Pay attention to his responses. A soft moan means you’re doing great. A harsh intake of breath means you’re going too hard. Some men like that, though, so if you hear it, ask him if he wants you to apply less pressure.
Now that you’ve gone top to bottom, move back up to his penis and testicles. Give him a handjob but make it slow and sensual. Don’t do it with the goal of making him ejaculate. Use slow, long strokes with the palm of your hand. Use lots of oil to keep it wet. Massage his testicles too but very gently.
Depending on what the mood is, you can finish the massage by turning up the intensity of the handjob until he ejaculates or just finishing without any orgasm. A sensual massage is a treat by itself!
Unlike other acts, this is one where less talking is actually sexier. If you need to say something, use a soft, sultry voice. A sensual massage is all about non verbal communication.