This is not for everyone but some people get really turned on by talking dirty. On the other hand, some people get really turned off by it. This is where communication comes into play. Talk to your husband beforehand. I firmly believe that in a happy sexual relationship, the other person should indulge the predilections of their spouse even if they’re not turned on by it, so hopefully if you’re into it and your husband is not, he’ll at least give it a try. One last thing. Dirty talk does not HAVE to involve profanity. It can, and the profanity turns a lot of people on, but if you and your husband don’t feel comfortable with It, you can still dirty talk without profanity.
First and foremost, keep context in mind! Dirty talk is when you’re feeling lusty. It is not something to introduce when you two are in a cuddly, romantic move. If your husband kisses you on the forehead, look you in the eyes, and then says “I love you”, do NOT respond with “I love you too. Now drill my pussy with your rock hard dick.” Just no. Talk dirty when you and your husband are in a carefree mood, having fun, maybe flirting. not when he’s telling you that you’re the love of his life.
Another thing to keep in mind about context is how your voice sounds. If you’re out in a parking taking a nighttime stroll, it would make sense to take a breathy voice and whisper into this ear “I can’t wait for you to fuck me when we get home”. Saying that same thing in a high-pitched squealy voice won’t have the desired effect. On the flipside, if you two are already in bed together, it would make sense to squeal “Fuck me harder baby”. Using a sultry whisper voice here doesn’t make sense.
Point here being: dirty talk is not just knowing the words but also the context. Know when to use it and what tone to use.
Another thing about dirty talk: communication is also non-verbal! In addition to your tone and context, use the rest of your feminine wiles. Sure, you can whisper to him “Baby I want you inside of me” and get a rise out of him. OR, you can lean in, place a hand on his chest, breath your hot breath on his ear and say in a soft tone “Baby….I…want….you…inside….of….me.”
Ok, so you’ve decided you want to at least try some dirty talk. What exactly do you say? Well, if you’re not having sex at the moment, you tell him what you want to do with him. If you are having sex at the moment, you tell him what you’re liking about it. It’s really that simple.
Here are a few examples to use.
If you’re really shy, you can start out with a simple text. Here are some tame
starters:
“Looking forward to you coming home today. I have a feeling we’re going to have some fun!”
“When you get home, don’t be surprised if I’m not wearing clothes”
“I can’t focus at work! I keep thinking about your body and what I want to do with it”
“What do you want me to wear tonight?”
Things to say when you’re outside home and you want to build up the sexual tension
“I wish I was home so I could do the dirty things to you that I want to”
“I want to rip your clothes off right now.”
“You know, if we were at home, I’d probably have your dick inside my
mouth right now”
“You look so sexy in that shirt”
“Walk in front of me so I can check out your butt”
When you get started talking dirty for real, here are few beginning sentences:
“Mmm, baby, that feels soooo good.”
“I am SO wet right now”
“I could spend all day between your legs”
“I’m getting close”
“Is that a bulge I’m seeing in your pants?”
Kick it up a notch:
“I love riding you like this”
“I love sucking your dick so much”
“You have such a hot ass”
“It’s so hot when you pin me down like this”
(Ifyou’re being dominant)
“Get down on your knees and service my pussy”
“You cock belongs to me”
“Shut your mouth and get naked. I’m gonna have my way with you and you can’t do anything to stop me”
(Ifyou’re being submissive)
“I’ve been a bad girl who needs spanking”
“Pull my hair and Make me your bitch”
“I want you to handcuff me and fuck me any way you want
“Fuck me like I’m your personal slut”