If I were to randomly guess how you feel about your body, I would probably be accurate in guessing that you’re worried about it. Maybe you feel a little bit overweight or maybe you feel a lot overweight. Maybe you feel like you’re too flabby or not toned enough. Maybe you’re ashamed of stretch marks or are worried about cellulite. Maybe you have scars on your body that bother you. Many women feel insecure about their body no matter how they actually look. I can speak forever on body image and unrealistic beauty standards but this isn’t a book about that! I know, without even knowing you, that you’re afraid your husband will not be pleased with your body because you’re flabby/have stretch marks/have cellulite/acne/something else.
Get that out of your head!
Feeling insecure is one of the greatest ways to damage your performance in bed. When you feel insecure, you’re less likely to let loose and have fun. I can’t undo billions of dollars of advertising and social pressure in one page in order to make you feel secure about your body. I will say this however:
Men want to have sex.
Men enjoy sex.
Men enjoy girls who are dirty in bed.
Your husband is a man and therefore, he wants to have sex with you. He chose to marry you. He knew that he was signing on to have sex with you when he made that choice. You might have stretch marks and acne and cellulite but guess what? It doesn’t matter. All women do. The sexiest thing you can do is be confident in yourself. Take ownership of your body and have fun. Your husband wants to see you naked, I guarantee it. Insha’Allah you married for piety and therefore, you will be the only woman in his life. He has no choice but to enjoy you!